When a Bitter Ex Comes for Your Frozen Embryos: Sofia Vergara and Nick Loeb
Heard about ‘Modern Family’ star Sofia Vergara and her ex-fiance Nick Loeb? Nick is bitchin’ because Sofia won’t hand over her frozen embroyos.
Allow me to bring you up to speed.
Nick and Sofia began dating in 2010. Six months into their relationship, he got into a car accident where his pelvis was fractured in five places. Ouch! He couldn’t walk on his own and had a revelation of how fast life could be taken. Fast forward to 2012, he and Sofia become engaged and he begins to talk about wanting children. According to him, Sofia was the one who insisted they use a surrogate—she’s a woman of a certain age and she makes her coin with her looks. With her eggs and his sperm, they created two frozen embryos. The first one that was implanted didn’t take and the second time, the surrogate miscarried. A year later, in 2013, they agreed to use invitro fertilization and a surrogate, creating two female embryos. Twinsies! They both signed a form stating the embryos created through the process could be brought to term with only both parties’ consent.
Here’s the kicker—the form didn’t specify, as required by California law, what would happen in the event Nick and Sofia broke up. Sofia wasn’t too pressed to become a mother again (she has a 22 year-old son named Manolo, like the shoe, from a previous marriage) as Nick was on becoming a father. He gave her a nasty ultimatum, Sofia wasn’t having it and they split after four years together.
“You can’t do permanent things with temporary people.”
Today, Nick, in true bitter ex style, wrote a pro-lifer opinion piece in the New York Times and basically aired all of their business to the entire earth while making Sofia seem like an evil anti-life bitch. Nick gave his version of the back story on their frozen embryos and why he’s so very passionate about being a father. Nick wrote, after they split, that he asked Sofia to let him have the embryos and he would pay all expenses to carry them to term and raise them. Sofia said ‘nah, son’ because she could and made it clear through her lawyers she wants to keep the embryos “frozen indefinitely.”
In his opinion piece for the Times, Nick cites his tormented childhood (parents divorced when he was a year old, father gained custody, mother disappeared from his life until he was nine, then died when he was 20), his father working and traveling a lot to the point that he was basically raised by his Irish Catholic nanny and his failed relationships where a girlfriend in his 20s had an abortion and he and his ex wife had difficulties having children as to the reasons why he feels cheated out of fatherhood.
My take on the situation?
Nick needs to get a life. Sofia clearly doesn’t want to co-parent with him and that’s her right to choose as a woman. You can’t do permanent things with temporary people and everybody knows (Phaedra voice) relationships come and go. While he’s spending his energy penning op-eds for the Times, he could be booing up another woman and having babies with her, or, here’s a clue: adopt a child like all the other people in Hollywood.
Why would any woman want a surrogate she doesn’t approve of have her babies and even more, another stranger raise her embryos into full human beings without her own motherly weigh-in.
Nick seemed like he wanted to be a father more than he wanted to be a husband. (Nothing is wrong with that, you just have to find someone who feels the same). It’s possible that while Sofia may have been dragging her feet when it came to deciding on a surrogate, he could have been doing the same when deciding on a marriage date.
But nope! Sofia moved on and is currently engaged to actor Joe Manganiello. Seems like Nick should move on too, and find another sexy Latina to procreate with.