Mo’Nique Also Gives Her Husband a Pass to Cheat!
Women and men in open marriages and relationships giving each other passes to cheat has been a hot topic recently.
Some celebrities admitted to giving their spouses passes to cheat, most recently reality personality and ex-wife of Lil Wayne, Toya Wright. She gave her estranged husband, Mickey “Memphitz” Wright, eight passes a year to cheat. Memphitz, on the other hand, didn’t allow Toya any passes.
The next celebrity to openly embrace a cheating pass in a marriage is comedienne and Academy Award-winning actress, Mo’Nique. In an interview with True Exclusives, Mo’Nique, who has been married to husband Sidney Hicks since 2006, shared why she feels couples should give each other a ‘pass to cheat.’
“The person that you stood up and you said ‘for better, for worse, sickness and in health, richer or poorer’ you took those vows in front of the universe,” said Mo’Nique.
“If you don’t live by them, then maybe you shouldn’t have taken them. And when you say ‘a pass to cheat’—see, when you’re with your best friend and you say to your best friend: ‘I’m having these feelings about this person, sexually, and I want to share it with you.’ When you’re best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations.”
Mo’Nique continues saying, “Often times, people cheat because of something they’re not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue, and you say we’re just human beings. And all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won’t ever say ‘he’s fine’ or ‘she’s attractive’?”
Mo’Nique goes on to say the person your spouse may want to cheat with is possibly giving them something you’re not willing to.
“Now, if you want to go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you want to sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do. And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not going to do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real.”
It’s not a big secret Mo’Nique feels this way. A few years ago, she said cheating was not a deal breaker in her marriage. She goes to explain the idea of only being with one person is a Western idea we as African Americans adapted, and it derives from a culture of ownership.
“We’ve been taught to have ownership, and that’s the Western way to do it. I’m not sure where you originate from, but I originate from this place called Africa and what I know about African kings—tell me one of them who just had one wife. Do you know any of them? I don’t. That’s where I originate from. So when we came here, we adopted other people’s ways, and that’s called ownership. There was a time when I was owned before. I don’t want to be owned anymore.”
It would be interesting to know if Mo’Nique’s husband would give her a pass to cheat also.
Ladies, what do you thinking about these oh so popular cheating passes? Sound off!