Thanks to Online Dating You May Not Land Someone Hotter Than You

They say half of being sexy is owning it and letting your personality shine through, but according to a new study, your witty charm and worldly banter aren’t going to be enough to land someone you’d probably consider much hotter than you.

You can thank online dating for somehow simultaneously opening up and shrinking the dating pool for you. NYMag reports that a new study has suggested that online dating has made it increasingly difficult for your personality to charm someone who might just be a bit more attractive than you are.

The study was conducted by two scientists at Northwestern who found that of “couples who met when they started dating, both people were about equally attractive…[however, in] friends-first couples, 3s dates 7s and 5s married 8s.”

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Which means back in the good old days when you found your next beau through a mutual friend or at work, you two were spending time around each other before you even considered dating. So even if physically you weren’t instantly drawn to them, you had time to organically get to know each other and decide your interest based on your interaction, not just attraction.

But in a world of swipes and 150 characters most people aren’t willing to take the risk of dating someone less attractive in hopes that their personality will somehow make up for it.

Alex Mayyasi of Priceonomics writes, “In a dating market of strangers, they agree more on who is most dateable, so they compete and settle. When people know each other, the situation is more win-win, because they develop their own preferences and disagree on who is most desirable.”

So essentially the idea of “mixed-attractiveness” in couples is dying, but this entire concept is supported by the archaic idea that we still rate people and their attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10.

If you’re really concerned that someone is more attractive than you and your going to miss out, then it’s tim to start putting down the phones and hitting the social scene for some real world interactions.

Ariel Leconte

Ariel Leconte

Ariel is the Associate Editor of Jawbreaker and creator of Revolutionary In Pink Pumps blog. She is equally obsessed with social justice, lipstick, culture, and red wine.