Has this ever happened to you? Your man makes you furious about something and draws you into a screaming match of epic proportions.
The screaming dies down, but you’re still heated, breathing heavy, giving him the death stare. Then, the next thing you know, he’s got you pinned with his hips and your tugging his hair as he carries you off to the bedroom for a whole different kind of fight.
People have often said angry sex is some of the best sex they’ve ever had, but have you ever wondered just why that is? And is there a difference between angry sex and makeup sex?
Reportedly, there’s a science behind why you love sexing down the man you hate.
One of the primary reasons for angry or hate sex is physical attraction. While you may emotionally hate that person in that moment, biologically your body may still be very much into them and sometimes biology just wins.
Relationship expert, April Masini, told Medical Daily, “Having sex to express feelings—whether the feelings are hatred, sadness, frustration, joy or love—is just a way of connecting. Hate sex is also that—a way to connect over a feeling. It may be that you think it’s hate sex, but it just may be sex over frustration, disappointment, or sadness.”
When you see someone you’re physically attracted to, your mind releases feel good chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. Despite knowing you hate that person, your biological response is independent of your emotions towards them.
The bonds and relationships you formed as a child can also play into why you may love hate-sex. If you were the type to be neglected as a child by a parent of the opposite sex, it can sometimes lead you to relationships or sexual encounters with people who don’t give you a lot of emotional attention. So “daddy issues” are a real thing and for men “mommy issues” are too.
When it comes to hate sex versus make-up sex, it all boils down to emotion, both of these types of sex incorporate extreme energy release. For most, the hair pulling, biting, slapping, and other rough sexual actions really heighten the sexual senses while also relieving tension and frustrations felt against the other person.
For some who have sex with someone they hate, it’s about the adrenaline rush and high that can come from the emotional release of sex, and the sexual power they may have over the other person.
Whether your angry sex is make-up sex or hate sex, remember not to let carnal pleasure get in the way of handling your emotions.
Sometimes it’s okay and even healthy to release all your frustrations with a nice big O, but don’t forget when you come off that high, your issues may still exist and you have to face them one way or another.
Are you a big fan of angry sex? Are you a make-up sex kind of girl or do you love to make love to guys you hate?