It’s become evident from personal stories and research men and women are faking orgasms which is doing nothing for either party’s sex life. There’s now a Tumblr page called, How to Make Me Come, which can offer the fellas some sort guidance about the vagina they really know nothing about.

The page was started by a 27 year-old woman named Sylvia who had an unsatisfying sexual experience. After telling her friend about the encounter, she realized she was able to be more open with her friend than she was with her partner, which got her thinking about the lack of communication people have about sex.

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“It got me thinking a lot about how to orgasm, and it made me think the last person you want to talk to about sex is the person you’re having sex with,” said Sylvia in an interview with Mic.

“If you’re a nice person and you consider how the other person feels and you’re having an intimate experience with someone, you want to protect their feelings.”

Indeed, trying to spare your partner’s feelings has prevented many from an orgasm or two.

“I wanted to create something where people got to share all the things they wanted to say about orgasm and sex and dating, but could not. I wanted to delve into the real female orgasm experience.”

How to Make Me Come features personal essays, 71 in total, from women on how they reach orgasm.

One entry offers an interesting analogy about the female anatomy and the map of Manhattan.

“Picture my pussy like the map of Manhattan. If I am lying on my back, Central Park can be my ‘landing strip’ and Carnegie Hall is my clit. From 57th down to 42nd and between 10th Avenue and Lexington is prime real estate. Times Square is, of course, my asshole. We must speak before we go there.”

*snaps!*

The submissions come from straight women, lesbian women and women of color.

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The age-old question is still: Why is it so hard for men to make women come?

A 2008 study from the Kinsey Institute found that 20 percent to 30 percent of women never had orgasms during sexual intercourse. A more recent study from the American Psychological Review said the “orgasm gap” between men and women is wider for single men and women. 80 percent of single men reported having an orgasm the last time they had sex while 40 percent of single women reporting coming during their last sexual encounter.

This information doesn’t surprise Sylvia.

“It totally makes sense to me why a guy wouldn’t know what [the female orgasm] looks and feels like, because if you’re learning from movies, obviously that’s fake; if you’re learning from porn, that’s fake, “she said.

“If you’ve never seen it and you’ve never talked about it, how will you make that happen for someone else?”

Sylvia hopes that How to Make Me Come will prove “it’s not just women are faking orgasms. It’s just that men are assuming that women are having orgasms, and both parties are too freaked out to speak up.”

Brittney Fennell

Brittney Fennell

Brittney is the Associate Editor of Jawbreaker and a writer who has goals to disrupt culture in ways unseen.