New Study Finds Men Have Been Underestimating Women’s Sexual Desire All Along
A study from psychologists at the University of Toronto and the University of Western Ontario found women desire sex more than their male partners believe they do. The Wall Street Journal reports men in committed relationships under-perceive their wife or girlfriend’s sexual desire.
Three studies were conducted by the psychologists where they used 229 long-term couples, with most being heterosexual, ranging in ages from 18 to 68-years-old, having been together for an average of six years and engaging in sex at least once or twice a week.
For the first study, the psychologists had 44 couples keep a diary for three weeks so they could report their level of sexual desire per day and write down their partner’s level of desire and relationship satisfaction.
The second study consisted of 84 couples coming into the laboratory to discuss their own desire as well as their partner’s perceived desire and happiness in the relationship.
The third and final study had 101 couples keep a diary to report on the same issues as in study two and writing down how “motivated they were each day to avoid sexual rejection.”
For all three studies, psychologists found the same results which were: Men underestimated their female partner’s desire. It was also found more often than not, men misinterpreted their female partner’s needs.
The days when men assumed their female partner was less interested in sex, the women felt more satisfied and committed in their relationships. As for the women, they were more likely to tell whether or not their partner was interested in sex.
It’s believed by psychologists the men under-perceive their female partner’s desire so they won’t face rejection.
However, psychologists don’t think this is a bad thing. Under-perceiving their female partner’s desire makes men try harder to entice their partner, which is why the psychologists believe women felt satisfied and comfortable in their relationships.
Amy Muise, a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto, said, ““It is better for the relationship for him to under-perceive because it avoids complacency.”
Sex and marriage therapist, Sari Cooper, told the Wall Street Journal women need to feel confident initiating sex with their partner and to not beat around the bush.
“I will see women in my office who will tell their husband: ‘Remember when I was joking about that sex scene in that movie we saw? Well, I was trying to come onto you,’” said Cooper.
“He may need something more overt.”
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