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3 Ways to Make Time in a Busy Relationship

Rumors have been flying around that the beloved quirky interracial coupling of Robert Pattinson and FKA Twigs were calling off their engagement!

Good thing they were just rumors!

A source close to the couple explained we haven’t seen much of anything in the area of wedding planning because the couple is just so damned busy! What with FKA Twigs charging forward with her music career and Pattinson working hard on acting, the successful pair get very little time together. Somehow though they’re making it work!

READ: Robert Pattinson is Over Racist Trolls Attacking his Relationship with FKA Twigs!

Millennial women are absolutely a generation of “get it done” chicks! We want to be at the top and we will put in all the work required to get there, so usually we like to date men just as driven as we are.

The problem is that means they’ll probably be just as busy too. So how are you supposed to climb the ladder of success and still find time for your boo?

Here’s a few ideas!

  1. Think small.

When you think about spending time with your man, you might be considering how you’re going to have an amazing long weekend together, because you’ll finally have time to spend with him; but the mistake is waiting a whole week to devote some time to each other.

The way you spend time together isn’t as important as how often you occupy each other’s space or minds.

Instead of worrying about planning the perfect weekend date, try finding small pockets of time to spend with each other.

Maybe have a work lunch or coffee date once every other week. Plan to have dinner together at least one weeknight, that doesn’t mean you have to go out to a restaurant or slave over an extravagant meal.

Create micro-traditions. Men are simple and repetition is a great thing, so even if your only guaranteed thing for the week is watching “Scandal” together, at least you always know that’s something to look forward to and so will he.

2. Climb the ladder together.

Sometimes you just do not have the time, no matter how hard you try, you just cannot carve out time for your man that won’t somehow get in the way of your work.

When the grind is so real you just can’t quit, blend the hustle and some quality time. Sometimes just being around each other is enough. You might have pieces to finish and he might have numbers to crunch, so do your work together.

We’re not talking group projects a la college senior capstone.

Think more, you take one side of the couch, he takes the other and just work.

Stop occasionally to admire how sexy your man looks when his brow is furrowed over an extra complex report and don’t be afraid to be in personal contact, drape your legs over his and just keep on working.

Your man will love watching you work and you can feed off of each other’s energy.

READ: Can Reality TV Really Create Long Lasting Relationships for Women?

3. Complain to each other

I know that usually they say no guy wants to have a girlfriend who does nothing but complain about what’s going on, but hear me out.

The idea here is to make yourself emotionally available to your man. Go past the whole, ‘How was your day?’ routine and let your man know if some kind of corporate crap was stressing him out, he could let it all out and fill you in.

We don’t often let men know it’s okay for them to be emotionally open, sometimes it seems like they always have to be there for us when we’re stressed, but we aren’t expected to return the favor. Climbing the ladder is stressful and 9 times out of 10 you’re probably sharing some of the same struggle.

So set yourselves up to share them with each other, vent frustration, and maybe even offer ways you’ve dealt with it.

Who knows, maybe a few minutes of couch therapy could turn into a few hours of stress relieving couch sex!

Ariel Leconte

Ariel Leconte

Ariel is the Associate Editor of Jawbreaker and creator of Revolutionary In Pink Pumps blog. She is equally obsessed with social justice, lipstick, culture, and red wine.